Here is my friend's new neck warmer. My husband and I knew the biopsy was cancer when we did not get a call two minutes after she left the doctor's office. Instead her daughter called us about three hours later. We knew not to call because my beloved partner has been in my friend's shoes many times. It is always better to wait a few hours before running into someones life. Actually as I write this, maybe just knowing the person is best. We wanted to run over and cry and hug her, but we knew better. When I called several hours later in the day to "see if I could bring dinner AND NOT STAY", the answer was "no", "can I have a rain check". Of course, rain checks are always good, but I really just wanted to hug her. You see, often our wants have to take a back seat to the person in the battle. She needed time to digest what had happened that day. She needed her husband, her kitties and her "old" robe. Good lesson for us all, remember, it is NOT ALL ABOUT WHAT WE WANT, it is about the person we love. Love, listen and respond.